The first thought that came to my mind when reading your question was, what’s really causing you to dither? Although it might appear to be coming from your subconscious, if you take the time to ask yourself what’s really going on, a little voice inside you might come up with an answer you hadn’t considered. I wonder whether this could be an avoidance technique? Maybe you dodge decisions because you don’t have faith in yourself? Or are you afraid of getting it wrong? These are two common reasons why people avoid or delay making their mind up. You might even try to persuade people to make choices on your behalf because you trust their judgement more than your own. In that case, you might secretly tell yourself that if it turns out to be the wrong decision, then it as their mistake, not yours.

This pattern of behaviour can undermine your confidence when making up your mind about anything and therefore reinforce a negative belief that you’re not up to the task.

The only way to build belief in yourself is by challenging that negative view and telling yourself that you can be trusted. Push yourself to make simple choices at first, and congratulate yourself afterwards. You’ll feel your confidence building with every decision you make, big or small.